Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), Self-love, Narcissism, Narcissists, Psychopaths,


And Relationships with Abusers, Stalkers, and Bullies


Ask Sam Vaknin

Author of "Malignant Self-love - Narcissism Revisited"


I am NOT a mental health professional - read the DISCLAIMER - click HERE!!!

The content of this Web site is based on correspondence since 1996

With hundreds of people suffering from the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (narcissists)

And with thousands of their family members, friends, therapists, and colleagues.


Online Photo Exhibition: The Old-New Face of the Narcissist - Click HERE!!!


I am the author of Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited. (number 1 bestseller in its category in Barnes and Noble). 


The Web site "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" was, for many years, an Open Directory Cool Site and is a Psych-UK recommended Site.

I am not a mental health professional though I am certified in psychological counseling techniques by Brainbench.

I served as the editor of Mental Health Disorders categories in the Open Directory Project and on I maintain my own Websites about the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and about relationships with abusive narcissists and psychopaths here and in HealthyPlace.

You can read my work on many other Web sites: Mental Health Matters, Mental Health Sanctuary, Mental Health Today, Kathi's Mental Health Review and others. I write a column for Bellaonline on Narcissism and Abusive Relationships and am a frequent contributor to Websites such as (where I serve as an expert on personality disorders).

I served as the author of the Personality Disorders topic, Narcissistic Personality Disorder topic, the Verbal and Emotional Abuse topic, and the Spousal Abuse and Domestic Violence topic, all four on Suite101. I am the moderator of the Narcissistic Abuse Study List , the Toxic Relationships Study List, the Narcissistic Personality Disorder Support Group, the Psychopath and Narcissist Support Forum, and other mailing lists with a total of c. 26,000 members. I also publish a bi-weekly Abusive Relationships Newsletter.

You can view my biography here.

I suggest you read this first, "What is Pathological Narcissism?" 

"A pattern of traits and behaviours which signify infatuation and obsession with one's self to the exclusion of all others and the egotistic and ruthless pursuit of one's gratification, dominance and ambition.

Narcissism is named after the ancient Greek myth of Narcissus who was a handsome Greek youth who rejected the desperate advances of the nymph Echo. In punishment of his cruelty, he was doomed to fall in love with his own reflection in a pool of water. Unable to consummate his love, he pined away and changed into the flower that bears his name to this very day."

Feel free to ask me your questions about pathological narcissism, abusive relationships, and the Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Send your questions to: or

Abusive Relationship Newsletter

Who is a Narcissist - Definition of Malignant Narcissism

Narcissism at a Glance

Narcissistic Personality Disorder at a Glance

Narcissistic Personality Disorder Tips

Narcissism, Self Awareness and Healing

Why Does the Narcissist or Psychopath Keep Coming Back?

How can I Save My Child from His Father's Narcissism?

Divorcing the Narcissist and the Psychopath

Do Narcissists Hate Women?

Narcissism, Self Love and Self Destruction

What's the Difference between Narcissism and Other Mental Health Disorders?

Can the Narcissist become Violent?

Can the Narcissist Ever Get Better? Is it Worth the Wait?

Is there any Difference between Male and Female Narcissists?

Thematic Guide to the Narcissism Web Site

82 Additional Frequently Asked Questions about Narcissism

Frequently Asked Questions about other Personality Disorders

The Mind of One Narcissist - Sam Vaknin Journalizes and Blogs

Read The Narcissism Book of Quotes (free) - Click HERE!

Read Sample Chapters of "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" - Click HERE!

Mental Health and Psychology Dictionary

What is Abuse (series)

Abuse in the Family (series)

Narcissism, Culture, and Society

Narcissistic Leaders

Collective Narcissism

The Psychology of Torture

Narcissism in the Boardroom

Personality Disorders - Use and Abuse of Differential Diagnoses

Object Relations - The Psychology of Narcissistic Mass and Serial Killers

Narcissism, Ethnic or Religious Affiliation, Terrorism - Is there any connection?

Bibliography - Narcissism, Pathological Narcissism, The Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)

Webliography - Narcissism, Pathological Narcissism, The Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)

Chats and Interviews

HealthyPlace Narcissism CHAT with Sam Vaknin

Relationships with Abusive Narcissists CHAT

Narcissists in the Workplace Chat Transcript

WebMD Narcissism Chat with Sam Vaknin

Mental Health Today Narcissism Chat

Dialogs about Narcissism and Abuse

Download all Narcissism and Abuse CHAT TRANSCRIPTS

Listen to Conversations with a Narcissist - Click HERE for MP3

Listen to an INTERVIEW about Narcissism and Abuse with Sam Vaknin

ABC Radio Psychopaths in Suits - Listen or Read Transcript

Listen to Radio Show Relationships with Abusive Narcissists

Narcissism - Listen to the Infinite Mind Radio Show

Mirror, Mirror - Interview with the Toronto Sun

The Monster in the Mirror (Sunday Times)

Egomania (Channel 4 Documentary in the United Kingdom) - Wikipedia Entry

Ask Sam Vaknin on the Psychopath Support Group

Case Studies on the Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

Ask Sam on the Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

Ask Sam on the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Forum

Case Studies in the Narcissistic Personality Disorder List Part I - Click HERE!

Case Studies in the Narcissistic Personality Disorder List Part II - Click HERE!

Ask Sam Vaknin on the Psychopath Support Group

Ask Sam on the Narcissistic Personality Disorder Support Group - Part I

Ask Sam on the Narcissistic Personality Disorder Support Group - Part II

Ask Sam on the Narcissistic Personality Disorder Support Group - Part III

Ask Sam on the Narcissistic Personality Disorder Support Group - Part IV

Fiction and Poetry

Poetry of Healing and Abuse: My Poems

English Fiction at Gorgelink - Click HERE!

FREE - Read New Short Fiction

Warning and Disclaimer

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The contents of this website are not meant to substitute for professional help and counseling. The readers are discouraged from using it for diagnostic or therapeutic ends. The diagnosis and treatment of the Narcissistic Personality Disorder can only be done by professional specifically trained and qualified to do so. 


The author is certified in Psychological Counseling Techniques by Brainbench.

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